Forum PFI and Workshop Descriptions

2023 IACP Forum

Thu - 9:00am to 4:00pm
Description Forum Session CEUs Presenters
PFI #1 We Need to Talk: Let's Talk About Threats

"We need to talk." For so most of us, those four little words represent a request (or demand) for a dreaded, difficult conversation. For our clients, the words often foreshadow "the end". We do great work supporting our clients' difficult conversations, but is it time we had our own "little talk"? This workshop invites you to join a refreshing and honest conversation about the threats we face in Collaborative Practice. What are our worries telling us? Despite how awesome it is (and we are!), CP is still not the number one choice for families. What do we hope will be better if we can have a deep and productive discussion about this? Join Jacinta Gallant to “talk about threats” in a hopeful way. Through a series of productively curious questions and skill-building experiences, you will be inspired to work with threats and hopes in a way that is real – and really effective.

Jacinta Gallant
PFI #2 Befriending Paradox

Drawing from the work of Adam Kahane’s Facilitating Breakthrough and Bernie Mayer’s The Conflict Paradox, we will explore the vexing polarities and contradictions we find in conflict. They present themselves to facilitators during our process choices: do we design process vertically, focusing on the good of the group, or horizontally, relying on the autonomy and differing needs of the individuals? Many paradoxes present as dilemmas at the center of conflict for our clients and also for us as facilitators. We will work to deepen our ability to embrace three common paradoxes: avoidance and engagement, emotion and logic, principal and compromise, as well as gaining comfort with toggling between vertical and horizontal facilitation. We will begin a shift: rather than thinking of paradoxes in binary terms, we can explore these seeming opposites, sometimes working in the in-between-space, sometimes strategically cycling between then, while we help our clients do the same.

Nancy Cameron
Victoria Smith
PFI #3 Show Up and Show Out: Bring Your Best Self to The Collaborative Table

Becoming the change you wish to see in the future, requires that you start within. When we experience conflict, make mistakes, or feel inadequate it’s hard to be aware of what’s occurring internally. We may resist, deny, or blame others because our brains say things like: “I don’t like/ want this feeling”, or “What is wrong with me for having this feeling?” This PFI is an adventure in self-discovery and personal insight so you can show up and show out, authentically at the Collaborative table. We will explore concepts like the quiet ego, and the value of self-compassion, especially during complex conversations. This PFI is a safe-to-fail exploration/experiment in meeting yourself as you are now while fine-tuning or developing the skills you need to be the changemaker for the future.

Nanci Smith
Deborah Gilman
Stephanie Dobson
PFI #4 Working Effectively with "Orchid" Clients

Adopting the Dr. Boyce’s Orchid/Dandelion framework, we explore challenging behaviours that show up in our collaborative cases. ‘Orchid’ clients show up with seemingly insatiable needs and no set of instructions. We can respond most effectively when we identify specific challenging behaviours and understand why they are showing up. Often, there are rational reasons for their irrational behaviours. We see behaviours which are negatively impacting the family, the team and the process, such as rigidity, all-ornothing thinking, defensiveness, bullying, blaming, unregulated emotions, intransigence, indecisiveness, and attribution biases.  Underlying these behaviours are distortions, biases, needs and fears, such as fear of being inferior, ignored, abandoned, or dominated and fears of losing, having regrets or facing their future.  Knowing this, we can respond more effectively using tools of self-awareness/self-regulation, trauma informed process (e.g. safety, transparency, expectation management, road mapping, empowerment) CARS, BIFF, EAR, emotional granularity and education on cognitive distortions and attribution biases.  We can create an instruction guide for our Orchid clients! 

Deborah Graham
Christine Kim
Fri - 9:00am to 12:15pm
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WS #1 Red Brain, Green Brain: The Art of Collaborative Practice, Advanced Skills for Managing Dynamics as a Collaborative Team

Enhance your skills and your client’s capacity to participate in the collaborative process by expanding your understanding of how power imbalances show up in individual and team dynamics and how to address them effectively. Learn how to use the IPV and Power Imbalance Screening Process and a reflexive practice to develop equitable and inclusive practices and work with clients who are struggling with divorce trauma, IPV, mental health, high conflict personalities and alignment. Learn how attunement is used to broaden the window of tolerance, and how to work the PACT Protocol (Prepare, Anticipate, Coach, Team) as a team when dealing with challenging dynamics and power imbalances.

Annette Katchaluba
Debbie Hoffman
WS #2 Creating and Maintaining a Successful Practice Group: Leadership Skills for Practice Group Leaders

The purpose of this workshop to help provide Practice Group Leaders with the knowledge, skills and resources to assist their successful leadership and facilitation of Practice Group growth. We know that Practice Groups all over the world deal with the same struggles related to successes and failures. They deal with organizational issues, membership issues, leadership issues and the dynamics of providing a service to their membership while at the same time offering the public a resource for Collaborative Practice Professionals.
This PFI is limited to Current or incoming Practice Group Leaders.

Ross Evans
Loretta Gephart
WS #3 Enriching Collaborative Practice Using the Internal Family Systems Model

Psychologists have long understood that individuals have sub-personalities seeking to guide our thinking and behavior. With a focus on Internal Family Systems theory, this workshop will help professionals (a) understand and manage this internal negotiation so that we can be more effective, and (b) teach these techniques to our clients.

David Hoffman
WS #4 Gaining Insight from Our Past: Strengthening Foundations for Resolving Team Conflict in the Present and Toward the Future

Participants will explore team conflict and relationships as foundations for productively resolving conflict. Through Gottman’s and Sulmeyer’s work, participants will explore clues from their families of origin to identify their conflict management style, understand the importance of positive and negative interactions in teams during the conflict, and how to build “negative capacity” in order to experience necessary and difficult conversations.
Participants will be provided with concrete tools they can take away to build relationships on a team and use when conflict arises.

Randy Heller
Steven Blumenthal
WS #5 When Love Locks Fail: Understanding How Couples Fit Together is Key to Helping Them Come Apart

Most of us choose our life partner with the promise that our beloved will meet our most profound longings. Our hopes reflect compelling, often unconscious hungers deep in our souls. Consider Imago theory’s “ghost partner,” the “lock and key” from Navigating the Emotional Dynamics of Divorce, or Jerry Maguire’s “you complete me”. Two people choose each other with wishes that often lead to struggle, disappointment, and anger as the very same characteristics that pulled the couple together now push them apart. This program teaches us to embrace the dissonance – to explore each marriage’s disappointing patterns so we can understand both clients deeply, and compassionately. We will practice the art of holding both partners’ clashing narratives—the magical tool that encourages clients to venture forward on a pathway that once again promises hope. 

Barbara Burr
Lisa Herrick
WS #6 A New Take on Landing Collaborative Files

This workshop approaches business development from the perspective of the client experience and offers practical strategies to build your settlement practice from before the client meets you until you are retained. We will take a deep dive into common missteps, workshop first phone-calls, initial client meetings, the process of getting retained, and designing/adapting process so you land the client and can build the practice you want.

Victoria Smith
Alexa Turner
WS #7 Maintaining Creative Tension in the Team – Some Keys to Success

Essential to collaborative practice is a well functioning professional team. So how do we get there? This interactive workshop draws on research into group dynamics from Gestalt psychologist Max Wertheimer, Kurt Lewin’s work on groups systems, contemporary neuroscience, Karpman’s Drama Triangles and Murray Bowens concept of triangulation in family systems.

David Roberts
Fri - 9:00am to 10:30am
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WS #10 Why Collaborative Professionals Benefit From Being LGBTQIA Allies

Increased discriminatory legislation against the LGBTQIA community means informed allies are needed. This requires we 1) examine our biases; 2) create safe and welcoming spaces; and 3) learn from the community. Because none of us wants to live in a world where hatred is tolerated, much less legislated, we all benefit from being allies.

Ariella Shuster
Gwen Mathewson
Mary Sakaguchi
Kathy Campbell
WS #8 Creating More Collaborative Cases through Connection, Psychology and Technology

Convert more of your Initial Consultations into Collaborative Divorce Clients! This workshop is designed for mental health and financial neutrals alike: Maximize your ability to explain and “sell” the Collaborative Divorce process to potential new clients who would benefit from it, using personal touches, cutting edge technology, tools and techniques.

Katie Zuverink LPC S
Deborah Bennett Berecz
WS #9 If You Build It, They Will Come: Developing Diverse, Equitable, and Inclusive Access to Collaboration (A2C) Programs

Did you build a program, but “they” didn’t come? Have you thought about how you reach clients? We examine challenges that may exist in your program, keeping you stuck in a field of dreams. Exploring 6 elements of inclusion– format, input, newness, bias, perception, and inclusion - to strengthen programs.

Adam Cordover
Deborah Gilman
Fri - 10:45am to 12:15pm
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WS #11 Resolving Family Disputes Through Lens of Care

This presentation will highlight the Collaborative Justice Project, a low bono community programme commenced in SIngappore. Why such a Project is important, understanding the needs of the community, starting such a programme and promoting the Project to the community will be the focus of this workshop. The aim of this workshop is to facilitate sharing and learning from communities who run such programmes.

Rajan Chettiar
Leonard Lee
WS #12 Fearless Feedback: How to Structure Debriefs to Deepen Collaborative Skills

Debriefs in the Collaborative Law process often receive short shrift, both from a training perspective as well as a practice perspective. Join us in an interactive workshop, using demonstrations, interactive discussions, and roleplays, to develop best practices for more productive and professionally satisfying debriefs.

Karen Van Kooy
Katherine Morneau
Ivan Alter
Anthony Diaz
WS #13 Build Your Future - Using the Collaborative Process to Negotiate Cohabitation Agreements/Marriage Contracts

Difficult conversations don't just happen on separation and divorce. Sometimes couples need to work through issues as they live together and/or marry. These issues might be related to second marriages, family wealth transfers, financial differences and other circumstances that arise during a relationship. The workshop will be a dynamic discussion sharing ideas, experiences and exploring opportunities to use the Collaborative Process to
help families plan their future.

Caroline Felstiner
Cori Kalinowski
Terri McDougall
Sat - 9:00am to 10:30am
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WS #14 Sushi for Lunch? Adapting Collaborative Process for Cultural Needs

Culture is an important aspect in international collaborative processes. Understanding, appreciating and working with the cultural lens in the collaborative team across the world will help to create successful collaborative divorces. This workshop will focus on how the collaborative process can be adapted to meet a family's different cultural needs in order to work towards a collaborative divorce.

Selina Trigg
Rajan Chettiar
Debbie Hoffman
Leslie Bottimore
Jamie-Lee Tuuta
WS #15 Top 5 Collaborative Training Topics

Members of the IACP Trainers Networking and Development Group will provide an overview of topics critical to providing effective training for Collaborative Professionals.

Marc Sheridan
Brenda London
George Richardson
Diane Diel
Susan DiGirolamo
Barbara Burr
Jennifer Davis
Elizabeth Thayer
Lisa Herrick
WS #16 “Elephant in the Room”- Effects of Infidelity on a Collaborative Process

Infidelity occurs in many divorces regardless of which divorce process is used. Only Collaborative Process offers a supportive approach when dealing with the emotions, financial and legal issues that accompany infidelity. Learn about the five different types of infidelity and the effects on the Collaborative Process, the professionals and the couple.

Lana Stern
Bette Quiat
Patricia Young
WS #17 Divorce Dialogues: Strategies for Successful Collaborative Conversations

Collaborative Communication is not one size fits all. Successful outcomes for all parties involved will be dependent on productive conversations. Whether you are speaking with one or many, in-person, virtually, or in print, the magic lies in proper preparation, perception and delivery. Learn key factors in becoming more flexible and effective in your collaborative communication and have better conversations with your clients and your team with better outcomes for all.

Susan Guthrie
Liz Becker
WS #18 The UCLA - Expanding the Use of the Collaborative Process

We will discuss what the IACP Uniform Collaborative Law Act Task Force has been doing this year and what can be done to help states adopt the Uniform Collaborative Law Act and Rules and help other countries adopt similar laws in their jurisdiction.

Robert Merlin
WS #19 For Better or Worse - But Not For Lunch: How the Collaborative Process Guides Divorce After 60

People over 60 are the largest cohort of the divorcing population. We will discuss the unique challenges for people whose lives are upended by divorce well past life’s midpoint. Collaborative tools help navigate divorce coinciding with retirement, the mental and physical health changes, and financial implications of aging.

Elaine Silver
Deborah Day
Diane Womack
WS #20 Supporting Parents of Children with Disabilities through the Collaborative Process

Participants will learn about the complex issues confronting divorcing/separating parents of children and adults with disabilities and how to help these families navigate them more effectively through the Collaborative Process.

Zanita A Zacks-Gabriel
WS #21 Role of Law in Collaborative Practice: How, When and Where

Collaborative professionals debate the role of law in collaboration citing potential ethical violations regarding advocacy and responsibility to educate. This panel discussion will explore when, where, and how the law should and must be considered and the relationship to client self determination. This is an important backdrop for the neutral professionals.

Sheila Furr
Jeffrey Wasserman
Jeffrey Weissman
Tova Verchow
WS #22 Helping LGBTQI Families: Gender Spectrum and Transgender Challenges Including Transitioning

This workshop prepares all professionals for working with clients that identify as transgender or on the gender spectrum, including 1) teaching best practices; 2) work in teams on financial issues related to transitioning and parenting issues in a divorce setting; and 3) discussion of gender identity discrimination and the law.

Teresa Cole
Concetta Spirio
WS #23 The Art of Neutrality: Learning the Essentials for Neutral Collaborative Professionals

This workshop is designed to educate professionals on the role and benefit of neutral team members in Collaborative divorce. Financial neutrals and mental health professionals will learn the art of neutrality and review the Model Standards. Lawyers will learn how to maximize the benefit of working with neutral team members. All participants will join in an activity on unconscious bias and review the importance of emotional management and nonverbal communication. This is an interactive workshop with ample Q & A for the end of the workshop for Collaborative team building.

Kristine Reich
Nancy Hetrick
Sat - 2:00pm to 5:00pm
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WS #24 Incentivizing Collaborative Practice: Helping Clients Choose to Collaborate

Incentives. They influence our everyday decisions from how we save for retirement, to which stores we frequent, to how often we go to the gym. In this townhall-style workshop, we will explore, and participants will be encouraged to share, economic and non-economic incentives to help clients choose Collaborative Practice.

Adam Cordover
WS #25 Impasse - It Happens to Everyone and How to Fix It

This workshop will explore the areas in which impasse can affect a file. We will look at common areas for impasse such as the matrimonial home, pensions, parenting and so much more. While exploring the areas of impasse we will also discuss creative and tried and true methods to move even the most stubborn client off their position and into their goals and interests.

Russell Alexander
Carrie Heinzl
Jonathan Paynter
WS #26 Calling All Neutrals!

If you are a collaborative professional fulfilling a neutral role, you understand the unique and meaningful dynamics that neutrality can bring to our work. In this workshop, our interdisciplinary team of neutrals will invite you to join in dialogue and learn together:
1. What neutrality means in our process
2. How our role is influenced by our sense of what conflict is?
3. How to be “the one” to ask the “dumb questions”
4. How to manage resistance from clients and colleagues?
5. How, and when, to give and receive feedback?
6. How to bring specialized knowledge while fulfilling the neutral role
We will close with a nourishing discussion about how we can support one another around the world to carry out
this vital role.

Jacinta Gallant
Deborah Gilman
Barbara Kelly
WS #27 The Three Dimensions of Listening

Of all the tools in our toolbox the most important, regardless of our profession, is our ability to listen. This workshop focuses on three dimensions of listening that occur simultaneously in all discussions: listening to me, listening to you, listening to us. This highly experiential workshop will assist participants in mastering all three.

Stephen Sulmeyer
WS #28 Collaborative Advocacy: Practical Ways to Get our Shift Together

Effective Collaborative Advocacy goes beyond generalities about our “paradigm shift” to concrete examples of how that change shows up in our work. Taught by two attorneys who have worked on more than 800 Collaborative cases, this workshop focuses on specific behaviors that makes Collaborative lawyering different than traditional advocacy.

Megan Yates
Ron Ousky
WS #29 Home Will Never Be the Same Again: Help for Gray Divorce Parents and their Adult Children

As the divorce rate for adults 50 and older soars, so does the number of adult children experiencing parental divorce. Although adult children are major stakeholders in their parents’ divorce, they are often forgotten. Learn how to help your clients and their adult children protect their post-divorce family into the future.

Carol Hughes
Bruce Fredenburg
WS #30 Talk of the Town: Creative Strategies for Cultivating Collaborative Practice in Small Communities

Launching a collaborative community is challenging, especially in communities where collaborative practice is unfamiliar to virtually all professionals working in the local area. This program will provide a detailed road map for introducing and cultivating a collaborative community from the ground up through urban partnerships, professional education, and marketing.

Rebecca Simpson
WS #31 Using PNDC™ Skills to Defuse Conflict with Difficult Clients

Using Powerful Non-Defensive Communication™ to enhance skill sets in defusing conflict by making simple changes in intention, voice tone, body language and phrasing when asking questions, giving honest feedback, and holding clear boundaries. Our focus will be on the many clients exhibiting more conflict due to current widespread issues such as the multitude of ways in which COVID is impacting people’s lives, as well as working effectively with narcissistic people.

Sharon Strand Ellison
Ami Atkinson Combs
WS #32 Strategy in a Four-Dimensional Space

Fourth-dimensional space implies ‘out-of-the-box’ or ‘beyond-three-dimensional’ thinking. As with current science and diversity theory, a focus on multiple variables and perspectives, complex systems and interactive contexts is meant to track all that is happening and then derive a strategy to optimize flex points to free up space for viable solutions.

John Sobraske
Diana Ryan
WS #33 Conscious Communication and the Power of Words and the Magic of Ubuntu

Ubuntu is an African philosophy: "I am because we are" . Then lean in and witness the power and impact of positive and negative energy on water molecules. Take this opportunity to harness the power and energy of Ubuntu to enhance communication and positively impact the people and organizations you work with.


Nicolle Kopping-Pavars