The Collaborative Child Specialist: Leading Families Through Liminality

For children experiencing their parents’ separation, the space between “what was” and “what is next” is a place of loss, waiting, and not knowing. The family is no longer what it once was, but not yet what it will be. Anthropologists have described the transition between states or statuses as “liminality.”

Shouting from Trees

In my memories of childhood, I remember my father saying: He who whispers down a well, about the goods he has to sell, will never make as many dollars, as he who climbs a tree and hollers.[1]

As a child, I could see the tree. It was an oak tree, broad and tall. I could see the well. It was made of stone blocks and had a bucket on a rope. I could even see someone in the tree shouting. I could see it. I thought I understood it. But I never applied it.

In many ways the Collaborative Practice movement stands at the intersection of the well and the tree.

A Working Parent's Paradigm Shift

My firm started working from home during the pandemic, and my kids, Landon, age 7, and Kendall, age 4, switched to schooling from home around that same time.

Overnight, I became a stay-at-home mom and homeschool teacher, in addition to my roles as attorney and business owner. Now I not only needed to fill my days with drumming up work for my employees and keeping my worried clients calm, I also needed to keep my kids entertained and somehow squeeze in time to supervise homeschooling. 

How Will COVID 19 Affect My Divorce?

Like most industries, the legal world is adapting to this strange and unexpected new world we find ourselves thrust into in the Spring of 2020. COVID-19 is affecting divorce and other family law cases, just like everything else.

First of all, many courts have suspended all non-critical hearings. In the jurisdictions where I practice, this has resulted in most courts allowing agreed orders, including final orders on divorce (also known as final decrees of divorce) and child custody to be submitted electronically with an affidavit en lieu of testimony.

Technology to Help Collaborative Professionals Work from Home

Like most Collaborative Professionals, I have found myself working almost exclusively from home.  Though I had worked from home in the past, I always had the option of going into the office to access needed equipment (such as an industrial scanner) that made life easier.  Now, not so much.  Fortunately, I had some software in place that made the transition to an at-home practice easier, and I have had to quickly learn new software.