Everybody lies (and gets lied to), every day. As mediators, journalists, lawyers and negotiators, we encounter more lies than most. In conflict, there are countless incentives to exaggerate, embellish, omit and deceive. So what do we do? How do we know if someone is lying? And how do we deal with it, when they are?
In this interactive webinar, mediator Gary Friedman and journalist Amanda Ripley will draw on research and their own experiences to explore when and why people lie, how to reduce the odds of destructive lying in conflict—and how to respond to lies and liars once we encounter them (without making everything worse).
Participants will be challenged to investigate:
- How can we determine if someone is lying?
- Which lies are worth ignoring, if any?
- Is there an ideal way to expose a lie?
- Is it ever useful to connect with someone who is lying?
- Is it possible to have compassion for a liar–and still have integrity?
Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, an investigative journalist and host of the Slate podcast How To! She’s spent her career trying to make sense of complicated human mysteries, from how people get out of dysfunctional conflicts to how countries educate virtually all their kids to think for themselves. Amanda’s most recent book is High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, published by Simon & Schuster in 2021. Her previous books include The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why, which was published in 15 countries and turned into a PBS documentary, and The Smartest Kids in the World—and How They Got That Way, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. She writes for the Atlantic, the Washington Post, Politico and other outlets, and she has received more than 80 hours of mediation training (through the Center for Understanding in Conflict, of course). She is also the co-founder of Good Conflict LLC, which helps organizations cultivate healthy conflict. Previously, Amanda spent a decade writing about human behavior for Time magazine in New York, Washington, and Paris.
Gary J. Friedman has been practicing law as a mediator with Mediation Law Offices in Mill Valley, California since 1976, integrating mediative principles into the practice of law and the resolution of legal disputes. Co-founder of the Center for Understanding in Conflict (formerly the Center for Mediation in Law), he has been teaching mediation since 1980. Prior to his work as a mediator, he practiced law as a trial lawyer with Friedman and Friedman in Bridgeport, Connecticut. After several years as an advocate, he sought a new approach to resolving disputes through increasing the participation of the parties in the resolution of their differences. At that time, he and his colleague, Jack Himmelstein, began to develop the Understanding-based model that is now practiced extensively in the United States and Europe. As one of the first lawyer mediators and a primary force in the current mediation movement, he has used this model to complete over one thousand mediations in the last two decades He has mediated numerous two-party and multi-party disputes in the commercial and non-profit realms, in the area of intellectual property, real estate, corporate, personnel, partnership formations and dissolutions, and family law.
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